When I was first asked to give advice to Americans about sarging in Sweden, my thought was DON’T DO IT!

Don’t sarge in Sweden, I mean, not don’t share my 4 years of experience :-)

Those years saw me living in Stockholm and Gothenburg, sarging scores of super-model quality HBs, the hottest I’ve ever met, and exploring sexually in ways I never did with English girls.

The reason I thought ‘don’t do it’, is because it can become a life sentence. So good are your prospects as an American, Canadian, Australian or Brit that it’s entirely possible you could plan to go to Sweden for 2 weeks and stay 10 years. I can personally attest to meeting and working with native English speakers who had travelled to Sweden on vacation, met a SHB, stayed on there for the sake of the relationship and the mind-blowing sexual options, had a kid and found themselves still in Sweden years later.

This is the reason I warn about going to Sweden – you need to know what you are getting into and you need to be strong. The story of Odesseus in Greek mythology sees the hero tying himself to the mast of his ship as he sails through the valley of the beautiful Sirens who attempt to lure him. Such are the sarging prospects in Sweden that you need to be as strong as Odesseus if you want to win the game on your terms. Many a brave American I met during my time there had sailed to Sweden after hearing the Sirens’ call and found himself checkmated into a LTR or marriage when all he’d wanted was some action in the sack. I and the people I met called ourselves ‘the refugees of love’, because we were all western English speakers living with hot Swedish chicks in what turned out to be a quite an alien environment.

So why am I both warning you of long term entrapment and revealing hints of the sexual paradise that awaits? Simply because so often a choice has to be made between one’s short term enjoyment and the sacrifices one makes when living in what remains, still, a rather different culture.

Sweden is cold in winter, the people tend to be reserved and unemotional and it’s bloody expensive. On the other hand, they tend to like English speaking westerners, they are sexually liberated and are carnally open in ways that make your typical western Anglophone society seem Victorian and prudish.

Having said all this as a pre-cursor, here are some thoughts on sarging in Sweden.

First, speak English. Let people know you are American or British etc. I learned this the hard way – I speak decent Swedish but I still sound foreign to the Swedes. They sometimes took me for a Yugoslavian refugee and would not respond to my openers. From their point of view, Americans and Brits simply don’t speak Swedish; certainly not as well as I can. Therefore, the Swedes seemed to surmise that because I was white and spoke Swedish with a foreign accent I must be some immigrant type. My attempts to open at the bus stop, on the street and in bars were met with suspicion. Immigrants are not high value people in Sweden, usually. But when I spoke English and let them know early on I am British, the response was so much better. They’d say things like ‘Oh I love London!’, and ‘Do you know there are more people living in London than in all of Sweden’, or ‘You’re English! I love the Beatles’. From there it was much easier to build rapport.

In the bedroom I was able to push for new sexual boundaries including getting my LTR to admit she wanted to try sex with another girl. I’d never had that from English girls, ever! I could go into more graphic detail in this area and expound on the new sexual borders I crossed with my LTR but I’ll save it and be discreet, at least online.

I laid Swedish girls too on holiday in Copenhagen, Croatia and Turkey. I had them visit me in Spain and England. They were all great times of exploring sexually. The Swedish chicks are so more feminine than the British or American chicks. Many times I just met a Swedish girl in a one to one situation – they tend to be strong on equality and it’s not like some places where girls go out only with other chicks. In Sweden I was able to meet girls in restaurants and bars when they were on their own. Also, I was able to meet chicks through fore-play parties. When I was first invited to one, I almost shot my load. They turn out, though, to be parties for drinking before the night out proper happens. Be warned, the drinks are damned expensive in Sweden so it’s quite common to go to a pre-party party in someone’s house to save money. Then you have the night out, followed sometimes, by after-play. In both the foreplay and after-play parties I was able to build attraction and close the deal.

Although individual equality, especially for women’s rights, is emphasized a lot in Sweden, the group is incredibly important. Not rocking the boat and fitting in is an important concept. There is the concept of ‘lagom’, which means average or just enough; not too much and not too little. The Swedes like lagom, and if you disrupt it by challenging the established Swedish way of doing things, you can pay a place of being alienatated by the group. This is important when gaming because you need to pay special attention to winning over the group if the chick is in a set. Having the group accept you and see you as cool is especially important in Sweden and it is a double edged sword in the sense that if you do succeed in winning the group to you then that group conformity works for you and not against you. In addition, the men tend to be quite shy and the women more the bosses.

In my experience, the younger Swedish chicks like a bad boy foreigner when they are younger – they like the fun, excitement and the novelty. But when they are slightly older and it comes to long term relationships and having kids, they often settle with a boring, dependable Sven (a Swedish man). Not always, but damn often enough for me and the other guys I used to sarge with to notice it and comment on it in agreement.

There is a ton more I could say about Sweden, especially about the psychology of the people when it comes to sarging, but I’ll leave it there for now and perhaps I can do a Q and A session as a follow up.