I love this!

A great parody of ‘alpha’ guys who have to prove they are alpha.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JMOh-cul6M

My recent advice to an English guy in America who was feeling sorry for himself:

“The first thing is to snap out of the victim mentality. It can be comforting, I know. I sometimes lie in bed and listen to Smiths songs. But I snap out of it quickly again and tell myself it’s doing no good in the long term.

This is about realigning yourself with reality.

The reality is, people don’t like victims. Victims are not attractive as people, unless you feel pity for them. But that’s not the kind of attraction you want to be getting. The other people who like victims are bullies and sadists who like to take advantage of them and keep them down. That’s not cool either, ecologically speaking.

Chicks (and people in general) WANT you to be cool, confident, comfortable in your own skin. No one likes an energy vampire or someone who ‘walks on egg shells’, if only because that kind of mentality makes the other person feel weird and uncomfortable.

I saw a photo recently. It was of a girl wearing a T shirt reading ‘I’ve got the pussy – I make the rules’. Someone has photoshopped it to read ‘I’ve got the pussy, I make the FOOD’.

That’s the kind of fun reframe you want to be running in your head. These chicks are not really powerful. Lots of them are frivolous wackos. A few of them are cool, and you only find out who is genuinely cool by talking to them. You can’t tell real value just by looking at someone.

I’d go out and talk to normal people (I suspect hanging out with gay Buddhists is not going to fill your head with powerful thinking or connect you strongly with reality, though I could be wrong).

The reality is a lot of people in America will find an English man interesting. Learn to tell stories to display value about Manchester e.g. the football club and the differences between soccer and US football. Try to get into engaging conversations. Do fake displays of low value to get them to see the value of where you are from ‘e.g. I don’t know why England is so popular with Americans, the weather is just awful .. rain rain’.

Chicks do this all the time to guys by saying ‘My hair looks terrible’, thus prompting the validating response from the man: ‘No, you look fine!’.

That should get them thinking of all the positive things Americans like about England. You can connect that elicited positive state to yourself by saying ‘Funny you should mention that because I was once in London and met the queen .. well saw her at a difference … I was surprised how short she is! You kind of imagine someone that important has to be taller! .. have you met anyone famous … who would you most like to meet …. that reminds me …’

See how it works? Learn to link themes and riff on themes from your life and general background to display value to the person you are interacting with and to connect with them by conveying who you are as a person with an interesting personality and a substantial background.”