Archive for February, 2009

Operating Systems

Saturday, February 28th, 2009

There comes a time in one’s development where you largely stop reviewing the materials and stop using the boards because you pretty much know what you should be doing and what kind of responses you are likely to get in terms of feedback. That’s not to say you don’t check in; you check in from time to time to touch base and perhaps to check with peers on specific or unusual SPs. But largely you integrate back into the ‘real’ world. That’s been my experience and that of many other advanced members who take a step back from public interaction. If we stay involved, it tends to be as much about lifestyle management as about PUA.

The upside of this is you remain real. This means you are living in the real world and reacting to its nuances but you have a really solid PUA mindset beneath the surface running your social operating system.

The downside is you stop pushing yourself in the sense that you don’t get the latest techniques. But human nature doesn’t change much, so as long as your grounding in the community has been solid you are not missing much by checking out for a few months here and there. Unless it is the 1910s and Einstein is on the scene, you are not going to go far wrong with the solid grounding you got from the past few years. Even Newtonian physics still work fine in the Einstein era. Einstein just took it to a whole new level. And PUA is miles simpler than relativity no matter how bamboozled by chick behaviour you sometimes feel!

By being in the field and interacting with people, you are far more likely to be able to culturally connect and fine tune your techniques and gaming experience to the current era and place. Those aspects of gaming are far more susceptible to change than the deeper evolutionary programming of what is fundamentally attractive on a psychological level. That’s where solid grounding in the community forms your baseline to build from in the real world.

So, for those of you who find yourselves accessing the community less than before, ask yourself – is it because you already have a solid grounding that is telling you to take it to the real world? If so, as Major Mark Cunningham would say in his seminars – a GOOD THING!

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Why Club Girls Are Emotionally Driven

Friday, February 27th, 2009

Q: It’s surreal that girls in clubs, 90-95% of them easily, CANNOT perform any simple logical plans.

These plans would include:

*I better not get so drunk that I don’t fall over*

*I better not start a bitch fight*

*I like this guy… but I will go the toilet a lot anyway* 

Why do chicks act this way?

A: Mainly as a protection mechanism. Just as guys will see a girl and feel very attracted to her yet DO NOTHING; so a girl will be interested in a guy and not act on it.

Both depend on evolutionary psychology – go with safety and comfort rather than risk something which could involve a loss.

How many times have you seen a girl and with all your heart wanted to talk to her and get to know her? Yet you do nothing.

Similarly with chicks who will be super interested in a guy but those same mechanisms act on her chick brain and can default to the safe response of walking away rather than risk a loss (but it could be a gain too if she/you would only bring yourself to act on your feelings!)

In a sense, this is how the Matrix controls us. In fact, we are doing the Matrix’s work – we are controlling ourselves because it is easier to stay with what is comfortable and safe than to risk rejection and danger and potential loss.

When she shows interest but doesn’t act on it, it is much the same mechanism that causes men to eject on a set that is going well. We rest on our laurels, psychologically and quit while we are ahead rather than risk a loss potentially down the road. You leave the set without any sense of failure and with a sense of ‘I could have closed that if I’d wanted to’, though you didn’t.

Both cases retain the comfort zone of the person, and thereby give a positive feedback experience in the medium or short term (e.g. no rejection, continue to have fun with one’s friends). But in the longer term it does not lead to one’s deeper values being met nor one’s relationship goals developing because you stick with what you know and what you are used to, rather than what might be more fulfilling, ultimately.

Ross» Jeffries talks about this when he says that if you close yourself down to meeting new people and new ideas you diminish your sense of possibility because you can no longer be aware of that which is outside you to illuminate and expand your sense of possibility and potential in this world. The Levels of The Mind pattern uses this principle.

If you can tap into where the person is in the present, THEN guide them to a level one or two steps beyond what they are used of experiencing, you start to build a new reality for them and show them new ways of looking at the world and enjoying its potential that she never knew existed before. Make sure there is an emotional involvement to this.

If you see her ‘getting it’, ratify the experience for her as having a strong emotional pay off for her.

A man who can do that is able to offer huge value to the girl. Yet to get into that position, one has to build an initial bridge to her reality so as to be able to first bring her into your reality, then from there take her into a hugely expanded sense of possibility which entry into your world can offer her.

An example of this – my LTR was amazed by how I talked to people and easily made connections with them. She had not experienced this before and didn’t think it possible – especially in her country. But I showed her how to break free from this self-imposed/Matrix limitation and be able to see that meeting new people is possible and mutually rewarding.

In summary, what I’m saying here is don’t take it personally if the chick sometimes uses some defence mechanism. It’s the way they are programmed. Understand the mindset – that protection mechanisms exist, then endeavour to bend these mechanisms to our advantage by knowing how they work and how to get around them.

Getting around them is a whole different post, but it can involve fake time constraints, fake disinterest, busting them on flaking without being needy oneself, displaying huge value initially then mildly pushing them away psychologically once she has initiated indications of interest and engaging the emotional angle in a way that pumps her up without buying into her reality

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5th Amendment

Friday, February 6th, 2009

So I have a semi. Not a full one.

I’m talking about the internet connection.

I’ve been off line for about 2 weeks because my phone company and internet provider CANNOT sort out my broadband connection. I’ve tried everything to get these incompetents to activate my connection. Faceman would fail this one, I tell you. Last night, to pass the time and kill the boredom I started ringing random numbers in the States and chatting to people.

One ‘phone sarge/social engineering scam’ went really well. I bullshitted my way past 2 watchdog types, using different voices and accents to bamboozle them and fed back keywords they were dropping. They then put me through to the vice-president of their major financial company who proceeded to give me financial details on major European operators for free.

Not quite the internet, but it was good to practise social skills again. And it didn’t take long to get some quality interactions going. I could say more about what happened but I’ll plead the 5th Amendment and avoid self-incrimination. Weird how I can get all kinds of sensitive and useful shit from America with some sarge talk but can’t get through to the numbskulls to who I am freaking paying to connect me to the net. Isn’t it ironic, don’t you think? A little bit too ironic, yeah I really do think. I’m half connected via dial up thanks to my own ingenuity and no thanks to the people who should be helping me reach the wider world.

So I’m back in England, got set up in a nice new apartment in a great location and am settling into a new job that, again, let’s me practise my social skills. All good to be paid to hone one’s communication.

I’ll write more when I can get this damned internet connection fixed.

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