In my experience you get two types of Indications of Interest (IOIs) from a girl – conscious and unconscious.

Conscious IOIs come from verbal responses the girl has deliberately chosen to play the game with you. She knows she is interested and she knows she is involved in a social interaction whereby a male and a female are testing each other’s wills. This is a form of checking fitness level in evolutionary terms. See my previous discussions on evolution’s role in deciding value when sarging.

The other kind of response is an unconscious IOI from her. This is when she is showing interest but doesn’t know she is doing it. It could be looking into your eyes longingly, triangular gazing you or laughing at your jokes. Have you ever seen those responses? She is interested and you spot her interest.

Which is better?

Well, in my experience unconscious IOIs give you more to play with. Because she doesn’t know you know she is interested, you can lead her and play with her responses. You recognise you are in the driving seat and this means you can set the agenda without directly triggering the defence mechanisms that a girl who knows she is playing the game with you can have.

Getting the conscious IOIs tends to be more flirty, more her setting the scope of the relationship and more you enjoying a battle of wits leading to mutual fulfillment.

Receiving unconscious IOIs puts you in the driver’s seat and lets you set the agenda of the relationship. It might be slightly more work initially but whenever I’ve been able to sense it and use that knowledge I’ve made a killing.

A laying, in fact.

And really long and powerful ones where she did wonderful physical things for me as expressions of her deep inner feeling

Like what? Cheating on her boyfriend. Making pornos with me. Sending me presents years after I told her to fuck off…that kind of thing.

And that’s because I know how to see a response, amp it up and leave her with a sense of what might be possible.