You are in a club and two girls walk by arm in arm to the bathroom. Are they synchronized in urinary need? Do they both, fortuitously, just happen to need to pee at the same time? Or is there something else going on here? Some weird chick thing?
The answer is illuminating and at the same time reassuring to us as players because when you understand a phenomenon it empowers you to being in a position to utilize that knowledge. With this in mind, let’s look at this female behaviour and why understanding it can empower us as PUAs. And, by the way, what IS it with the linked arm shit they do? Read on…
Right now I live in England. I’ve lived in Spain, Hong Kong, Thailand, Sweden and Germany. These are, by most standards, safe places to go out at night. The risk of physical danger while walking to the bathroom in a club is negligible. Despite first impressions, females are not going to the bathroom to piss together in unison – this is not synchronized urination. How do we know this? We need only look at the behaviour of men in clubs and see they don’t travel en mass together to piss, even if they all started drinking at the same time. No, something else is going on.
The reason is sexual selection. It’s the nature of the club environment, the sexual vibe therein and the fact that in such a location chicks are more vulnerable to their non-rational urges. This leaves them not in physical danger so much, as in danger of being gamed and potentially fucked by an accomplished PUA without any vetting or secondary defense mechanism being present in the form of a cockblock.
Without the cockblock to help regulate the buying temperature of the target, the target is liable to be untowardly vulnerable to being opened and seduced by a man she barely knows. The antithesis to this, yet still operating directly in the sphere of sexual selection, is the potential experience of a low value AFC or a bore cornering the girl when she is alone and she not having the social nuance to escape. It’s that or she lacks the state control to recover from the ‘trauma’ of deflecting the low value male. For that defense mechanism to be employed effectively, sisterly support is needed.
Hence the need for chicks, especially HBs in highly charged sexual environments, such as clubs, to go to the bathroom in pairs or more. They link arms as an outward visual indication that they are not alone. It makes them feel more secure against being opened by low value guys or by players who are likely to use hit and run sexual tactics. The result of walking together, sometimes arm in arm, is it helps deter those AFCs who are fine about approaching solo girls but who fear approaching chicks in sets.
Putting off guys from approaching might be an unconscious defense mechanism in the sexual selection stakes; it is also a superb qualifying technique. Men who are not put off, and who approach girls who are clearly part of a set, are men with balls and confidence. Those men are more attractive to the chicks when the approaches are successful.
This brings us to the question of how using our understanding of these social dynamics can empower us as players.
Understanding this dynamic tells us that chicks, while in a pumped up sexual state are vulnerable to being sarged and rapidly fucked if you have good game. I know because I’ve done it many times. Same night lays is a subject I’ve written and been interviewed about a lot recently. See my recent contributions to CharmingRogue.com.
Seeing chicks go to the bathroom together in a club should remind you of your power as a worthy man. She needs to go to the bathroom with her girlfriend because of your potential power. She is unconsciously admitting that you have tremendous sexual potential. Therefore, because of your male sexual potential, she has to employ additional defense mechanisms because she cannot trust herself not to be seduced if you engage her non-rational brain and appeal to her sexual side with good game.
What does this mean in terms of game technique?
It means being aware of, and utilizing, the power of buying temperature in a chick. In a pumped up sexual environment she is part way to being closed simply because of the nature of that environment.
In a non-club venue you are likely to have to pump her state from a level of normality whereas in a club you already have a higher base line to work from because you are in an acknowledged sexual selection arena with all the ‘shiny objects’ already present to engage her emotions – the music, lights, hot people etc.
Using these insights means understanding that if you can approach girls in pairs or larger groups and engage them effectively, you are already way ahead of the crowd who have been put off (screened out) by the use of this defense mechanism.
Also, understand that it is hugely useful to work with the head start you already have in pumping state. You need to add to the trend she is already experiencing by using a cocky frame to amp up her sexual state. Don’t go for rapport too early, especially earlier in the night when girls are often seeking attention and will want their girlfriends to see them having fun and getting attention before settling for one guy to go home with later in the night.
Don’t be put off by girls walking around together for security. Engage the target and the cockblock both. Know they need to stick together because there are guys like you out there with large amounts of sexual potential.