A buddy of mine, Max, who I met at the Speed Seduction seminar in London this year asked me for ideas on how to sarge girls he meets outside bars whilst having a cigarette break for 5 minutes.

This is my suggestion to him, and I’m sharing it with you because I’d be interested to hear how it works for you smokers out there who have to leave the bar to enjoy a cigarette.

I’ve field tested the themes and pattern language and they are solid, though being a non-smoker I’d like to know how they work for you in a smoking environment.

The background to this enquiry by Max is that a few years ago, the UK government banned smoking in bars so one now has to leave the venue and stand outside to smoke. The PUA outcome of this is you can often find targets outside venues smoking for a limited time before returning to their set inside the bar.

This means the PUA has to make an impact quickly before his target returns inside the venue. On the other hand, a benefit of the ban is chicks are now isolating themselves away from the usual noise and their peer group. It’s therefore easier to communicate as people.

Try running this:

“I was just arguing with my friend Gemma about the smoking ban. I mean, what do you think of having to come outside for a cigarette these days? I know everyone says the air is cleaner inside and your clothes don’t smell of smoke after a night out and all that. The reason I ask is her friend was telling us he is all in favour of having to come outside for a cigarette because it is a great way to meet people. He didn’t even smoke when the ban came in but since then, he’s taken up smoking socially because he meets so many interesting people outside having a cigarette.

And he was telling me most of the people he meets are a lot more laid back and cool than the other people he used to meet. There’s something about people who smoke that says they are more chilled out, they go with their feelings, they have their own minds and live life to the full, in the moment – when they want something, they tend to go for it. Have you ever met someone like that, me … I find you can meet all kinds of interesting, intriguing people just having a break and when you realise that’s what can happen, between you and me, I have to say it’s the kind of experience you can focus in on and find yourself thinking about a lot more because this is the kind of experience you can find so unexpectedly enjoyable…”

This approach uses pacing and leading, confusion, ambiguity, implied social proof, it is non-apologetic (you are meeting her in just the way you describe) and it uses some humour. It builds interest, focuses her mind on you and sets you up as someone she is going to think about more.

Play around with that kind of approach.

 SteviePUA