Years ago, people got ahead in society through family connections or through their own ingenuity. Today there is more social mobility in the wealth creation market. Knowing people in the business is still important, but so are how you connect with people, how you market yourself and how you communicate to make a good impression.
Most students of PUA and seduction skills are attracted by the ability to increase their lay rate with attractive females. This motivates us to work on the social skills we need to attract females and manage our relationships. Wanting to have the skills that will lead us to being deeply satisfied in this area gives us intrinsic motivation. But wanting to do our jobs to make money for its own sake gives us extrinsic motivation.
When something connects with, and satisfies, our deep desires we tend to have a certain type of motivation. This is called intrinsic motivation and typically empowers us far more strongly than its opposite extrinsic motivation i.e. wanting to do something because of an external influence. Of course, there is sometimes overlap e.g. more money can, for some people, mean more access to females.
As PUAs, however, we should be careful about linking the two desires because solid game does not depend on having money, as such, but more on having the personality and communication skills necessary to attract and hold a quality female.
Getting ahead in your workplace can bring financial benefits which, in turn, can translate into more nights out and more generosity on your part but don’t necessarily have to equal solid game or success. In fact, for most AFCs, more money means more AFC activities.
Likewise, attracting a female with PUA skills does not have to depend on being introduced through the right people. As David DeAngelo says – ‘Attraction isn’t a choice’. When you have powerful PUA skills, your target can be attracted to you in spite of the social differences.
When you make the right approach in the right way, in the right context and display attractive qualities, even royalty are willing to give up their crown. Just look at Prince Felipe of Spain or Edward V111 of England. Both married who they wanted and were willing to give up the throne because of the attraction they felt. That’s how strong attraction can be.
The principle here I want to extend is that having good PUA skills can help you rise in the promotion stakes, help you make more money, increase your influence over so called ‘bosses’ and help you see the full colour wide screen picture when people above you at work see only a snapshot.
Having the PUA skills you want helps you take control of, and succeed in, your social life while at the same time providing the impetus for you to generate the skills that can seriously advantage you in the job market.
This is a key understanding for tremendously powerful personal improvement – motivation is so important to success, and if you can channel a very strong natural need, such as a sex drive, to develop the skills you need to be successful in that area then you are far more likely to be able to use those skills in other transferable areas e.g. jobs.
It is through developing your frame control/calibration/state control/use of sub-modalities and related skills in PUA that you are more able to use these effectively in the workplace to make the gains you want and deserve.
Therefore, understand:
1. Learning PUA skills will likely help you in your job, as well as with girls
2. Wanting to fuck girls is good because it motivates you to develop skills you can use in the workplace
3. It’s important to recognise your desires, not hide them, because they can be important allies
4. Having the skills you need with both girls and jobs, potentially, provides equality in society – one no longer needs all the traditional qualifications of success. You can hack society to some extent.